"It's good for the kids because then they don't think of it as 'us' and 'them,'" Angie said. "It's just 'everyone,' everyone working together to get to a common goal."
Misconceptions cloud positives of foster care
Foster care holds many stereotypes, Terry said, usually stemming from horror stories in the news about abuse or neglect.
"It's not really like that," Angie said. "Most foster families that we know are very nice people, very good people, very caring with children."
And foster families stick together, looking to each other for answers to problems. Once a month, foster parents can attend support groups for more information or help. The Hamms attend at least three a year.
"Foster parents are held to a higher standard than regular parents," Terry said. "Our rules are more strict, but generally it's stuff you should be doing anyway if you're a good parent."
While the home is filled with love, it's also very structured. Each child wakes up at a specific time, has his or her allotted time in the shower and a specific bedtime, depending on age and behavior.
They arrive un-structured, Terry said, therefore strict schedules and consequences are necessary.
"We give consequences, but it's to try to change their behavior for next time," Angie said.
Some children need more help than others.
"They've been let down and abandoned by everybody around them for whatever reason, whether it was their fault or not," Terry said. "So you've got to show them that no matter what you do, I may not like your behavior, but I like you and we're going to be there. We're going to keep you."